YOU LOSE BECAUSE YOU FIGHT THE WRONG BATTLES

good friend of mine captioned his photo on Instagram “i am not lucky you have no idea how much time i spend on my knees”  and it hit hard.

Do you see those relationships that have thrived so well and you wish yours was like those and not a sulky one like yours? That there were no arguments every single night and you just lived happily ever after?

Before you start yelling every relationship has issues and before you call your pack to inform them how your lover hurt you yesterday or how they are not living to your expectations ask yourself “how much time do i spend on my knees praying for him/her?” So now that you have been trying to change your better half with no success does it mean you ditch them? No it means get down on your knees and ask God to be the center of it all. When God’s warriors go down on their knees the battle is not over. It has just began.

To win the fight you have to come up with the right strategy and the right resources because victory doesn’t come by accident. If you think pin-interest and brainy quotes are the solution to a successful relationship you lack a strategy. If you use those as your weapon of defense you are not different from that person who will go to war with a bow and arrow to fight against a whole army with ammunition and grenades. You will definitely lose. Just because brainy quotes told you that “you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change” doesn’t mean Jesus can’t. Come on if He changed water into wine what about your girlfriend/boyfriend.

Behind every successful relationship there is someone on their knees praying for it. Before you open your mouth to tell people how bad he/she ask yourself “have i thanked God for him/her today…have i prayed for his/her future today…have i thanked God for his/her studies today..how frequent do i pray for him/her…Is GOD the center of this relationship? Is GOD the third strand in our relationship?”

so before you sit down with your “council of elders” to try finding solutions to your relationship make sure you have prayed about

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NO MAN THAT TRULY LOVES YOU WILL HIDE YOU

Shout out to all the side chicks who refuse to cheat on another woman’s man. If you are a side chick and you’re reading this KEEP READING it might help you. So you’ve been flirting with this guy who has already made it so clear that he’s dating? And you feel so comfortable with the whole issue. My sister the seed you are planting you will surely reap  abundantly. Don’t you ever sit down and think of yourself and wish to one day have your own man and start your family one day..invest with him and life happily ever after? Why do you allow yourself to be someone’s ‘sometimes’. Relationships are just for two people are you that poor in math??

You just sit there thinking that he’s going to someday break up with his girlfriend for you? wow! Wake up and realize you are a lot more than that. Stop allowing other people to determine your worth. The blunt truth is if you’re his side and you end up dating remember your spot has opened up and it’s free and another girl like you with no sense of direction will fill it. It is a cycle and it repeats itself every time. Refuse to be used. If you know someone is already taken please respect their relationship. Give the other girl some peace of mind.

A guy won’t respect you unless you give him something to respect. Raise your standards so high that you will be the S.I unit of self-worth and dignity. His attention means nothing if you don’t respect yourself.Just because someone desires you it does not mean they want to be with you. If you don’t walk away you will be so disappointed. A guy will make you feel the luckiest but always know at the end of it all he will go where he’d rather be. THEY DON’T CHEAT WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE BETTER THEY CHEAT WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE OKAY PLAYING SECOND!!!

if you are a guy and you have a side chick SHAME ON YOU BIG TIME!!!!!!!

JUST CLARIFY MY ‘ZONE’ DON’T LEAD ME ON

Time to grow up. You want me in the friend zone say it. I seriously have an issue with people who lead others on. People don’t have time for games anymore. With all those games in playstore, apple store, windows store you still decide to play with people’s feelings. (smh) At least respect someone enough to tell them what’s up. If you do not want to talk to them just tell them.If they’re getting on your nerves let them know. If you’re losing feelings let them know. Don’t wait to take them for a merry-go-round. They deserve to know. Why would you keep leading someone on if you’re unsure of what you feel for them. Time to grow up and speak up.

Sometimes they don’t want you to reciprocate they just want clarity. Don’t start up things if you’re not ready for them. Don’t call them sweet names and excite someone for no reason. Then the notorious ones who keep on saying they kept quiet because they never wanted to hurt you. And you just go like WOW!! that was so superman of you. Someone wrote ‘a clear rejection is better than  a fake promise’. Don’t raise someone’s expectations and later break their hearts.

You want to be friends say it. You want a relationship say it. If you are not ready to commit say it. You want a fling say it. You want a long term thing say it. In short clarify the zone and DON’T LEAD PEOPLE ON!

THIS THING CALLED LOVE HAS NO MANUAL

I wish LOVE was as easy as going to the supermarket and purchase an item written directions for use…or store in a cool dry place…or if it comes to contact with your eyes rinse with plenty of water and if symptoms persist seek medical advice. But then again these directions differ from product to product. Like for example you will find serve when hot in a packet of ugali and best served when chilled on a coca-cola bottle. In short this should tell you how you love differs from any other persons’. Their is no specific way as to how one should love. Well i know you’ve come across those weird guidelines if your partner is not treating you like this run…if he’s not taking you out run for your life…the common one being  if you’re always the first to text and call he/she is not interested.

Sometimes you meet someone you become close. You develop feeling towards them then FRIEND ZONE happens. Then they start dating and tell you about it and you’re just there torn in between being happy for them or not. But after a while you just shrug it off and life goes on. But now there is this other type you meet and they sweep you off your feet. They bring some type of excitement that was never there. They ask you for your number and the first time you text you realize they have a problem…they’re always blue ticking you(opening text and not replying) they like literally ‘ignore’ you. You then decide to talk to them about it and they say they’re poor in texting it is just not their thing. You tell your friends about it and you get different responses he’s just pretending….he doesn’t want to talk to you….some things were not meant to happen…men are all the same…you’ll find a good guy..everyone with their different story. Your friends will tell you how to run your relationship but only you know how he/she makes you feel.

Main confusion when it comes to such is whether to walk away or try harder.Personally i’m never afraid of waiting.. my greatest fear is waiting for something that will never happen. But then again i strongly feel a part of me will always be waiting for you.

 

NEW YEAR NEW ‘RESOLUTIONS’

Doesn’t the word ‘resolutions’ just sound like a huge object that can fall on you and hurt you big time? I don’t know.

these resolutions are different from the daily ones where you vow you will NEVER text your crush again but then you just find yourself texting them. Actually you double the texts.

I will tell you why i can never make resolutions. look for instance a student resolving to work harder in school. Hello..that is what you are supposed to do. A couple resolving to love each other more. Aren’t you supposed to like love each other?? that’s what couples do and that is why you are not business partners. someone resolving to be attending lectures. i mean this is why you came to school basically. i will save money is another common one. you don’t know you’re supposed to save for a rainy day?? 

I just think that these resolutions are a little bit overrated . they have been given a larger image than life. i think it is always a polite way of reminding us that we got our priorities all wrong. don’t make a long list of reSolutions.. just do what you got to do. don’t label it as things i will do before this year end.. instead just write things i got to do every day

I only have one resolution for this year  NOT TO HAVE ANY RESOLUTIONS

I’M READY TO MOVE ON BUT FORGETTING ABOUT YOU IS A HARDER FIGHT

Before anything let me say that I hate you cupid…you and your arrows!!!!
Life sometimes throws at you things you were not ready to catch. Positions you don’t want to be (smh).
Sometimes we love people too deep till it hurts. We spend time with them get close like very close. We are so into them untill nothing else makes sense. Everytime you want to text someone you think of them first. You wait for the brightest star and you make a wish that those moments lasts forever.
You love them but you keep quiet about it simply because pinterest told you ‘never rush things that need time to grow’ so you just chill.
Day by day feelings growing stronger bonds tightening and you just don’t want a day to pass without seeing them.
Then life happens once more and they fall in love too…but not with you this time.their fairy tale begins. You know the i-love-you-you-love-someone-else cycle right??
You say you’re ok with everything and you’re happy for them. But deep down you’re hurting. It’s paining you every single minute. You want to forget everything…most importantly you want to strangle cupid for wasting another arrow.
You say you’ll be ok even though you know you won’t. You just lie about everything. You don’t even have the strength to face them you might breakdown anytime. You say you won’t text them again but you still do not because you’re happy for them but because they still mean the universe to you. A fact even the fastest athlete can’t run away from. Then the funny bit is just how they’re clueless that they  hurt you. Things never turn out the way we want them to but it doesn’t change the fact that life must go on. Yes I’m so ready to move on but forgetting how someone makes you feel is the harder fight.
Dear cupid,
NEVER shoot me again…why don’t you use those arrows to kill those wild animals escaping the game parks and disturbing people.

Dear Santa,
This Christmas I just wish to wake up with amnesia…that’s the greatest gift
Ooh and cupid you can as well use those arrows to shoot those goons involved in corruption and save crime

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Before anything let me say that I hate you cupid…you and your arrows!!!!
Life sometimes throws at you things you were not ready to catch. Positions you don’t want to be (smh).
Sometimes we love people too deep till it hurts. We spend time with them get close like very close. We are so into them untill nothing else makes sense. Everytime you want to text someone you think of them first. You wait for the brightest star and you make a wish that those moments lasts forever.
You love them but you keep quiet about it simply because pinterest told you ‘never rush things that need time to grow’ so you just chill.
Day by day feelings growing stronger bonds tightening and you just don’t want a day to pass without seeing them.
Then life happens once more and they fall in love too…but not with you this time.their fairy tale begins. You know the i-love-you-you-love-someone-else cycle right??
You say you’re ok with everything and you’re happy for them. But deep down you’re hurting. It’s paining you every single minute. You want to forget everything…most importantly you want to strangle cupid for wasting another arrow.
You say you’ll be ok even though you know you won’t. You just lie about everything. You don’t even have the strength to face them you might breakdown anytime. You say you won’t text them again but you still do not because you’re happy for them but because they still mean the universe to you. A fact even the fastest athlete can’t run away from. Then the funny bit is just how they’re clueless that they  hurt you. Things never turn out the way we want them to but it doesn’t change the fact that life must go on. Yes I’m so ready to move on but forgetting how someone makes you feel is the harder fight.
Dear cupid,
NEVER shoot me again…why don’t you use those arrows to kill those wild animals escaping the game parks and disturbing people.

Dear Santa,
This Christmas I just wish to wake up with amnesia…that’s the greatest gift